,! %ORT 9/RUCTIONAL MANIFE/O = RELATION%IP AN>*Y #bf ,PEOPLE 3 ,AU?OR 3 ,&IE ,NORDGR5 ,TEXT 3 ,?IS IS A NEW TRANSLATION_/ADAPTATION TO ,5GLI% ( A RELATION%IP AN>*Y PAMPHLET BY ME1 ,&IE ,NORDGR51 PUBLI%$ 9 ,SW$I% AS 0,RELATIONSAN>KI I #h PUNKT]0 BY ,9T]ACT+ ,>TS 9 #b#f4 ,MORE 9 ,SW$I% ON HTTP3_/_/WWW4&IE4SE -- A WEBSITE ,I RAN ACTIVELY BETWE5 #bd & #b#h1 :]E RELATION%IP AN>*Y WAS DEF9$ & EXPLOR$ BY MYSELF & O!RS4 ,LOVE IS ABUNDANT1 & EV]Y RELATION%IP IS UNIQUE ,RELATION%IP AN>*Y QUE/IONS ! IDEA ?AT LOVE IS A LIMIT$ RES\RCE ?AT CAN ONLY BE REAL IF RE/RICT$ TO A C\PLE4 ,Y\ HAVE CAPACITY TO LOVE MORE ?AN ONE P]SON1 & ONE RELATION%IP & ! LOVE FELT = ?AT P]SON DOES NOT DIM9I% LOVE FELT = ANO!R4 ,DON'T RANK & COMP>E PEOPLE & RELATION%IPS -- *]I% ! 9DIVIDUAL & Y\R CONNECTION TO !M4 ,ONE P]SON 9 Y\R LIFE DOES NOT NE$ TO BE NAM$ PRIM>Y = ! RELATION%IP TO BE REAL4 ,EA* RELATION%IP IS 9DEP5D5T1 & A RELATION%IP BETWE5 AUTONOM\S 9DIVIDUALS4 ,LOVE & RESPECT 9/EAD ( 5TITLEM5T ,DECID+ TO NOT BASE A RELATION%IP ON A F\NDATION ( 5TITLEM5T IS AB\T RESPECT+ O!RS' 9DEP5D5CE & SELF-DET]M9ATION4 ,Y\R FEEL+S = A P]SON OR Y\R HI/ORY TOGE!R DOES NOT MAKE Y\ 5TITL$ TO COMM& & CONTROL A P>TN] TO COMPLY ) :AT IS CONSID]$ NORMAL TO DO 9 A RELATION%IP4 ,EXPLORE H[ Y\ CAN 5GAGE )\T /EPP+ OV] B\ND>IES & P]SONAL BELIEFS4 ,RA!R ?AN LOOK+ = COMPROMISES 9 EV]Y SITUATION1 LET LOV$ ONES *OOSE PA?S ?AT KEEP !IR 9TEGRITY 9TACT1 )\T LETT+ ?IS MEAN A CRISIS = ! RELATION%IP4 ,/AY+ AWAY FROM 5TITLEM5T & DEM&S IS ! ONLY WAY TO BE SURE ?AT Y\ >E 9 A RELATION%IP ?AT IS TRULY MUTUAL4 ,LOVE IS NOT MORE 0REAL0 :5 PEOPLE COMPROMISE = EA* O!R BECAUSE IT'S P>T ( :AT'S EXPECT$4 ,F9D Y\R CORE SET ( RELATION%IP VALUES ,H[ DO Y\ WI% TO BE TREAT$ BY O!RS8 ,:AT >E Y\R BASIC B\ND>IES & EXPECTATIONS ON ALL RELATION%IPS8 ,:AT K9D ( PEOPLE W\LD Y\ LIKE TO SP5D Y\R LIFE )1 & H[ W\LD Y\ LIKE Y\R RELATION%IPS TO WORK8 ,F9D Y\R CORE SET ( VALUES & USE IT = ALL RELATION%IPS4 ,DON'T MAKE SPECIAL RULES & EXCEPTIONS AS A WAY TO %[ PEOPLE Y\ LOVE !M 0= REAL04 ,HET]OSEXISM IS RAMPANT & \T !RE1 BUT DON'T LET FE> LEAD Y\ ,REMEMB] ?AT !RE IS A V]Y P[]FUL NORMATIVE SY/EM 9 PLAY ?AT DICTATES :AT REAL LOVE IS1 & H[ PEOPLE %\LD LIVE4 ,MANY WILL QUE/ION Y\ & ! VALIDITY ( Y\R RELATION%IPS :5 Y\ DON'T FOLL[ !SE NORMS4 ,WORK ) ! PEOPLE Y\ LOVE TO F9D ESCAPES & TRICKS TO C\NT] ! WOR/ ( ! PROBLEMATIC NORMS4 ,F9D POSITIVE C\NT] SPELLS & DON'T LET FE> DRIVE Y\R RELATION%IPS4 ,BUILD = ! LOVELY UNEXPECT$ ,BE+ FREE TO BE SPONTANE\S -- TO EXPRESS ONESELF )\T FE> ( PUNI%M5TS OR A S5SE ( BURD5$ 0%\LDS0 -- IS :AT GIVES LIFE TO RELATION%IPS BAS$ ON RELATION%IP AN>*Y4 ,ORGANIZE BAS$ ON A WI% TO MEET & EXPLORE EA* O!R -- NOT ON DUTIES & DEM&S & DISAPPO9TM5T :5 !Y >E NOT MET4 ,FAKE IT TIL' Y\ MAKE IT ,SOMETIMES IT CAN FEEL LIKE Y\ NE$ TO BE SOME COMPLETE SUP] HUMAN TO H&LE ALL ! NORM BREAK+ 9VOLV$ 9 *OOS+ RELATION%IPS ?AT DON'T MAP TO ! NORM4 ,A GREAT TRICK IS ! 0FAKE IT TIL' Y\ MAKE IT0 /RATEGY -- :5 Y\ >E FEEL+ /RONG & 9SPIR$1 ?9K AB\T H[ Y\ W\LD LIKE TO SEE Y\RSELF ACT4 ,TRANS=M ?AT 9TO SOME SIMPLE GUIDEL9ES1 & /ICK TO !M :5 ?+S >E R\<4 ,TALK TO & SEEK SUPPORT FROM O!RS :O *ALL5GE NORMS1 & NEV] REPROA* Y\RSELF :5 ! NORM PRESSURE GETS Y\ 9TO BEHAVIOR Y\ DIDN'T WI% =4 ,TRU/ IS BETT] ,*OOS+ TO ASSUME ?AT Y\R P>TN] DOES NOT WI% Y\ H>M LEADS Y\ D[N A MU* MORE POSITIVE PA? ?AN A DI/RU/FUL APPROA* :]E Y\ NE$ TO BE CON/ANTLY VALIDAT$ BY ! O!R P]SON TO TRU/ ?AT !Y >E !RE ) Y\ 9 ! RELATION%IP4 ,SOMETIMES PEOPLE HAVE SO MU* GO+ ON 9SIDE !MSELVES ?AT !RE'S JU/ NO 5]GY LEFT TO REA* \T & C>E = O!RS4 ,CREATE ! K9D ( RELATION%IP :]E )DRAW+ IS BO? SUPPORT$ & QUICKLY =GIV51 & GIVE PEOPLE LOTS ( *ANCES TO TALK1 EXPLA91 SEE Y\ & BE RESPONSIBLE 9 ! RELATION%IP4 ,REMEMB] Y\R CORE VALUES & TO TAKE C>E ( Y\RSELF ?\<6 ,*ANGE ?R\< COMMUNICATION ,= MO/ HUMAN ACTIVITIES1 !RE IS SOME =M ( NORM 9 PLACE = H[ IT IS SUPPOS$ TO WORK4 ,IF Y\ WANT TO DEVIATE FROM ?IS PATT]N1 Y\ NE$ TO COMMUNICATE -- O!RWISE ?+S T5D TO 5D UP JU/ FOLL[+ ! NORM1 AS O!RS BEHAVE ACCORD+ TO IT4 ,COMMUNICATION & JO9T ACTIONS = *ANGE IS ! ONLY WAY TO BREAK AWAY4 ,RADICAL RELATION%IPS MU/ HAVE CONV]SATION & COMMUNICATION AT ! HE>T -- NOT AS A /ATE ( EM]G5CY ONLY BR\E SO US$ TO PEOPLE NEV] REALLY SAY+ :AT !Y ?9K & FEEL -- ?AT WE HAVE TO READ BETWE5 ! L9ES & EXTRAPOLATE TO F9D :AT !Y REALLY MEAN4 ,BUT SU* 9T]PRETATIONS CAN ONLY BUILD ON PREVI\S EXP]I5CES -- USUALLY BAS$ ON ! NORMS Y\ WANT TO ESCAPE4 ,ASK EA* O!R AB\T /UFF1 & BE EXPLICIT6 ,CU/OMIZE Y\R COMMITM5TS ,LIFE W\LD NOT HAVE MU* /RUCTURE OR MEAN+ )\T JO9+ TOGE!R ) O!R PEOPLE TO A*IEVE ?+S -- CON/RUCT+ A LIFE TOGE!R1 RAIS+ *ILDR51 [N+ A H\SE OR GR[+ TOGE!R ?R\< ?ICK & ?94 ,SU* 5DEAVORS USUALLY NE$ LOTS ( TRU/ & COMMITM5T BETWE5 PEOPLE TO WORK4 ,RELATION%IP AN>*Y IS NOT AB\T NEV] COMMITT+ TO ANY?+ -- IT'S AB\T DESIGN+ Y\R [N COMMITM5TS ) ! PEOPLE >\ND Y\1 & FREE+ !M FROM NORMS DICTAT+ ?AT C]TA9 TYPES ( COMMITM5TS >E A REQUIREM5T = LOVE TO BE REAL1 OR ?AT SOME COMMITM5TS LIKE RAIS+ *ILDR5 OR MOV+ 9 TOGE!R HAVE TO BE DRIV5 BY C]TA9 K9DS ( FEEL+S4 ,/>T FROM SCRAT* & BE EXPLICIT AB\T :AT K9D ( COMMITM5TS Y\ WANT TO MAKE ) O!R PEOPLE6 ,FROM 3 ,!,AN>*I/,LIBR>Y4ORG4 ,*RONOLOGY 3 ,NOVEMB] #c1 #be 3 ,! %ORT 9/RUCTIONAL MANIFE/O = RELATION%IP AN>*Y -- ,PUBLICATION4 ,APRIL #c1 #bb 3 ,! %ORT 9/RUCTIONAL MANIFE/O = RELATION%IP AN>*Y -- ,ADD$4 ,JANU>Y #d1 #bbb 3 ,! %ORT 9/RUCTIONAL MANIFE/O = RELATION%IP AN>*Y -- ,UPDAT$4 FILE G5]AT$ FROM 3 HTTP3_/_/REVOLTLIB4COM_/